While you never want to get into extended discussions with women about their ex-boyfriends–you want to keep things focused on the present, and on you and her–knowing the types of guys she’s dated in the past can provide valuable information.
This is especially true when she dated a wack dude, since you can now present yourself as the opposite of him.
There are three main categories of wack ex-boyfriends:
Type #1 - The Stalker.
When the relationship ended, this pathetic head case couldn’t let go. When macking a girl who had a stalker ex, you must present yourself as the “anti stalker.” Be extra careful about saying or doing anything that show “clinginess.”
Don’t accompany her everywhere. If you call her to chat, she should be the one calling you next time. When she calls you to invite you out, don’t always accept the invite. Try saying, “I’m just going to chill tonight. You go ahead and have a girl’s night out. Have a great time. Call me tomorrow and let me know how it went.”
Make it a habit to give her space and let her know you’ve got other things going on in your life–unlike the stalker, whose entire world revolved around her.
Type #2 – The Loser.
He was broke, couldn’t hold a job, or simply had no ambitions or direction in life. Become the opposite in her eyes by mentioning things, or goals in your life that you are passionate about. Women are turned on by passionate men. It’s a quality that losers lack.
Type #3 – The Commitaphobe.
This guy refused to commit to her. Maybe he dumped her at the altar; maybe he was never willing to be monogamous. With this type of girl, demonstrate how important commitment is to you.
Use the word. Don’t say “I’d love to have my own business someday.” Say, “I’m very commited to launching my own business soon.” Don’t say, “I’m close with my family.” Say, “I’m really committed to my family. They’ve always been there for me, and I’m always there for them.” A guy who values commitment is a guy she can imagine being commited to her.
Don't make this common mistake.
Also, no matter how much of a jackass her ex-boyfriend sounds like, refrain from making disaparaging comments about him.
Read that again - it's really important.
Remember, at one point in time she had serious feelings for him. Dissing him is basically the same as dissing her, and her judgement. Instead, make him seem irrelevant and not even worth discussing. “It sounds like that guy didn’t appreciate all the great things I’m seeing in you.”
Then move the conversation onto a more pleasant topic. Keep things focused on the present and on future possibilities. “That guy” is boring, irrelevant, ancient history.
A final note about exes...
Whenever the topic comes up, women are invariably going to ask you about your romantic past and “what happened” between you and your ex. This is a minefield you do not want to stumble into.
No matter how it ended between you and your ex, your explanation is probably going to make you look bad. Think about it...
- If she was a nutcase, then it makes you look like you’ve got terrible taste in women.
- If she dumped you, it makes you look lame. And if you broke up with her, for whatever reason, it makes you look callous.
Either way, you lose. So this is what you should do... just give a vague answer about your past relationship and reinforce in her mind that you’re both unattached now–and that the future is wide open.
Use this magic line:
“We had a lot of good times together, but in the end, it just wasn’t meant to be. I think it’s a good thing that you and me are both single now, and back on the scene.”
Now, move the conversation onto a fun topic that leaves the exes in the past–where they belong.
Are you following me here?
I know that right now you’re probably thinking to yourself:
“Wow, that’s interesting. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that… so I could know exactly what to do from when I first make a move on a friend to get her to date me… all the way up until we get physical and beyond…”
Deadly Seduction: Ex Bf Annihilator
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