The Rake: Kiss You First

Here's The Rake's method on how to get a woman to initiate the kiss...

Step 1. Take her somewhere private. This doesn’t mean moving out of the club you’re in, because she might be hesitant to leave her friends behind.

Just go to a nice secluded spot where you can talk privately without much distraction. You can take your leave together (if you’re inside a big group) by asking her to accompany you to the bar or some other part of the club.

Step 2. Make sure she’s comfortable talking and bantering with you before you go further. Allow a few minutes of small talk and comfort-building before you crank up the interaction by building sexual tension.

The last thing you want is her regretting the kiss, so you must make sure she enjoys your company before making your move.

Step 3. While she’s discussing something mundane or just bantering, you can look at her directly and interrupt her mid-sentence.

Tell her “I can’t concentrate on the topic, honestly. All I can think of is kissing you right now.”

She might blush, stop talking or feel uncomfortable, but the key to this is to follow up with “But I do NOT want to kiss yet because we’re not quite ready for a real kiss. What we are going to do is to practice kissing.”

Step 4. As soon as you tell her that, you have to show her how it’s done.

Tell her to relax and not worry about kissing because you won’t kiss her. In fact, make a promise not to kiss her and ask her to do the same.

This is an important step - so pay attention!

When you’ve said your promises, put your arms around her and just move closer gradually.

You can continue talking softly but you should continue moving closer until your lips are almost touching then slowly pull away.

Step 5. Ask her “wasn’t that fun”?

Chances are, she’s exhilarated and would like to try again.

If she doesn’t you can ask her to practice kissing (without really kissing) with you again. By this time, sexual tension is building and the more you ‘practice’, the more she will want to kiss you for real.

Step 6. If she does kiss you, let yourself go and kiss her back for a few minutes then gently pull back and say in a teasing manner, “ok, enough of that, promise breaker”. 

After this, you can change the topic and talk about other things, like nothing happened.

Step 7. After a while, ask her to try practicing again. Like the last time, ask her to swear not to kiss you. Admonish her lightly for the way she did the last time.

Doing this a few more times will lead her to kiss you again, this time with more passion.

So if the next time you feel stuck when you want to kiss a girl - follow these seven steps - and she might just kiss you first!

The Rake: Kiss You First