Look, I know that this method of showing dislike or playing hard-to-get (or delivering a 'mild insult' - also known as the Neg Technique) increases tension in a woman so that she tries harder to get your attention.
Who doesn’t want more approval-seeking women, right? It’s also quite obvious why so many men respond to this method: it strikes a chord inside every man who has ever been rejected or insulted by any woman in the past.
I am one of these men and I felt the same way, but clear thinking right now made me objective about the implications of showing dislike during the dating or meeting up phase.
There’s one obvious flaw to this strategy that I want to point out here. A woman will not sleep with you if you insulted her previously. It becomes a game to her to make you notice and to make you like her (even, “like her back”), but insults will not make her last long enough to have a real relationship with you.
Why? These ill feelings add up, and when it really matters (inside a relationship) and you can’t keep the pretense up anymore, those bad vibes you created while you were intent on making her think you don’t like her will blow up.
Maybe there’s an easier way to still be unattainable without hurting her feelings too much eh? There is - read on.
How can you show or tell a woman you’re into her without making yourself too available for her? The guidelines below will show you how, but first you should know how my dating life really blasted off when I discovered the right way to do this.
Here's the correct way of telling a woman that you like her... and not sound like a total chump
1. Compliment her physical traits only if she has worked for it.
Conditional compliments work best, particularly if your flattery is targeting her physical traits.
The conventional way to do this is to ask “what else is there…” For instance, you can say “What else is there besides your looks that will make me like you more?”
I have another strategy for this. Saying something like this “I know you’re gorgeous, but you know what? Your personality is what I really about you” will tell her that the fact that she’s beautiful impressed you only because her personality is great.
2. Teasing after a compliment.
Have you ever seen something you said elicit such a violent response from a woman? It could be something that’s out of turn and you instantly catch the bad reaction so you turn it around by teasing her.
You can also do that with compliments; particularly if she seemed uncomfortable after you told her something that’s supposed to be flattering.
Another way of using this method is by saying an outrageous, over-the-top compliment, following it up with a downer, and then teasing her to improve the effect of the original compliment.
3. Be creative.
Some guys downplay a compliment because they cannot commit to it. Saying, “it’s ok” isn’t a compliment, and neither is following up with “no, really, it’s ok”. She would rather hear something that’s unique or none at all.
The problem is particularly obvious when the guy doesn’t mean the compliment, or if he wants to flatter her but can’t come up with the words.
Browse through a list of synonyms and find out what other words that mean “nice” are more likely to make a woman’s heart beat faster.
With the above three methods you should have no problems letting a woman know that you like her - and not being viewed like a chump. But there's something else I'd like to tell you.
If you still believe in "playing hard to get" or "mild insult" techniques then you'll realize that they will sabotage your chances of success with women.
The reason is simple - it shows that you are a total prick, and only women with extreme low self confidence will ever want to be with one.
The ONLY way to become better with high quality women is to build deep emotional connection with them - this is the ultimate key to unlock any woman's feelings for you.
Now here's the secret of building deep connection that nobody else has ever told you...
In order to keep a woman interested in talking with you past the opening lines, talk to them just like the way you would to a girl you have known for a long time.
So here is the secret…
First you have to find out about what subjects you talk about with your women friends, and use these topics to talk with your new women acquaintances.
Then, you can play a game of make believe where you feel that you have known a woman you just met for a long time, and she is madly attracted to you.
Try this technique and you will be powerful enough to keep a woman engaged to you as long as you want her.
Don’t forget that getting a woman to get attracted to you entails hard work if you do not possess the necessary skills or "prizability".
(For a quick revision on how to build lightning fast 'high value' and prizability, refer to the Two Power Strategies section, page 36 of How To Seduce Out Of Your League).
However, a useful warning…
If you want to engage women and induce them to see you as a prize, you are not igniting the sparks of attraction in her.
Oh okay, if you haven’t set high preferences or standards, you may be able to attract a few women here and there, but if that is the case then you don’t need to memorize the techniques of attracting women after all.
But if you want hordes of attractive women fighting their way to get into your pants, you have to know what makes women tick and how to make them stick. Knowing a woman’s psychological secrets could point you to hit the right buttons to attract women.
I may not have an idea of the type of women you may be attracted to, nor do I know your preferences but this is what I know…
Take it from me and learn from my techniques for best results because I had been studying the female species over the last six years and have become familiar with the mechanism that triggers attraction for women.
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