First, let's talk about what Jared wrote:
"I need to thank you. I had a wife for years and wow, my game sure changed after I left her. I guess I changed, too. But the point is: I had virtually no social skills and was utterly uncomfortable out there in the dating scene."
Jared, a lot of things contribute to male social skills, from being too focused on school or work to spending too long in one relationship.
Now, although these things aren't necessarily bad and can bring people joy, going back to being single after a very long hiatus could make you feel insecure in that jungle filled with hyenas and snakes nowadays.
Trust me - I know. :)
It's amazing how many things you can forget without having practiced seduction for quite some time.
Whenever I go through a phase like that and I feel a bit rusty - which I sometimes still do - I choose to listen to several of my own courses to remind me of every subtle tactic I might have already forgotten.
How to be razor sharp in dating... and remain that way!
"After going through your material, though, I found out that I was doing the right things before despite not knowing what they actually were. Now, the attraction is evident in any interaction that I become a part of."
Thanks, man. Learning how much of a difference I can make for you guys truly drives me to continue to find out, perfect, and teach my ways on how to succeed at attracting women.
I oftentimes get bombarded with emails about experiences just like that: After studying a few of my courses, a lot of guys realize that they were actually doing many things right, but just didn't know what those things were.
Now they know how to get rid of the wrong things they were doing, focus on the right things, and take full control over female interactions at all times.
Then, Jared said,
"I was with a friend whom I was trying to convert to your concepts, but when I told him how to talk to women right, he only laughed at me."
Back in my college days, I remember sharing several ideas on how to meet women with a good friend.
He, too, laughed at my ways and continued to lecture me on his own ways - the ones he believed were right.
However, at the end of it all, he never gotten any girl out on a date at all. In no time at all, he was suffering from very low self-esteem.
That's when he realized that my "crazy" ideas were actually working on women, filling them with lust, and making them unable to keep their hands off me. He seethed in anger and was filled with hate.
Here is the moral of it all...
Don't listen to your friends when they jeer, harangue, and tease you to no end. Who cares what they think?
Nobody should judge you but your real world results.
If your friend is a real man, he should admit that your tactics work if they do. However, some "friends" don't do that.
The whole truth is: friends sometimes wish you won't change or evolve. Ever. So, every once in a while, they might try doing all that they can to stop any changes from happening to you.
If this is the case, it would be smart to let those "friends" go and find people who will positively affect your life instead.
Next, Jared said:
"In just a few minutes, she ended up standing closer to me and turning her back to her boyfriend, who slowly left the group. He had no reason to be mad, though, because I didn't blatantly hit on his girl. The attraction just happened to flow and he knew this. My friend was totally amazed when the playboy vanished without a word. I even told the girl to go to her boyfriend - to no avail. She said, "But you're so interesting."
I'd say that Jared's demonstrative skills were top-notch.
However, there are many possible risks involved in taken girls' cases: crushing another man's ego and getting punched in the face, for example.
Since I am not here to give you moral advice, you need to decide on your own whether attracting a taken girl is something you would want to look into.
I am going to say this, though
(and this might freak you out)...
(and this might freak you out)...
Attraction is completely involuntary and people who are already in committed relationships need to make concerted efforts to avoid feeling attraction toward other people.
Perhaps the playboy's girlfriend was merely flirting to get him jealous. Maybe she is sick of dating a playboy.
(In TRL #133, my friend Benjamin Damien has demonstrated WHY attached women do this... and it's not just for kicks!)
There is also a great chance that what happened merely has a lot to do with your attraction skills and charisma. Maybe Jared simply eclipsed the playboy's skills and bumped him out of his dating life.
Jared sadly didn't give a lot of details, so I'm going to guess what he did:
1) While interacting with the girl, he kept believing that he was the trophy to be won - the absolute best thing that could ever happen to a woman and you showed this belief with your personality, body language, and tone of voice.
2) Since his actions and words matched his belief of being a trophy, the girl believed it all, as well. All Jared did was establish the frame of the overall interaction - that he was the trophy that she had to win. Basically, he took her out of the playboy's reality and stuck her into his.
See, whenever a man has all of these skills, he can choose to steer his dating life into whichever direction he desires.
However, if a man lacks several of these skills, attracting attached women and succeeding with them could become quite frustrating. If this is the case with you, then a lot of the time, you might have to settle for girls below your actual standards.
The Rake: Girlfriend Stealer
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